The way to making a personality in teaching and upbringing as leading without being possessive

 In practice common work of teachers and students is combined in some principles and rules. Let us name some of them: 1. Unity. 2. Self-determination. 3. Collective work and responsibility. 4. Creativity as purpose. 5. Faith – united in a structure of Principles for Purposeful Living; Rules for Living the Good Life includes: “Be grateful; Be smart; Be involved; Be clean; Be true; Be positive; Be Humble; Be still; Be prayerful.

 Taking into account multicultural student auditorium in action, the teachers may operate simple speech matrix, releasing the psychological atmosphere of communication at the very first stage of it. In the so called “Multicultural truth recommendations” we may read and use in communication:” Don’t complicate life. Missing somebody? Call. Want meet up? Invite. Want be understood? Explain. Have questions? Ask. Love someone? Tell them. See someone is in need? Help him.”

 So, the role of psychological following of communication is tremendous, not less. That is why it may be interesting and useful to read and discuss the situations from the lives of great well-known people, happened to appear in circumstances to overcome and win.

In accordance with educational purposes and goals of foreign language studies we proposed the students some situations should be understood from the position of mental explanation and common sense. Such approach had an aim to learn students to lead without being possessive but leading due to the laws of truth and respect for all those around in need and trouble. So, the examples for group discussion: 1. “I was raised to show respect. I was not dragged up. I was taught to knock before I open a door. Say “Hello” when enter the room. Say “Please”, say “Thank you” and show respect to my elders. I let another person have my seat if they need it, say “Yes, Sir”, and “No, Sir”, and help others when they need me to not stand on the side lines and watch. I will hold the door for others behind me and say:” Excuse me” should I need to pass. I love people for whom they are, not what I can get from them and most importantly, I was raised to treat people exactly how I would like to be treated by others. It’s called Respect. If you were raised in this way, you share this truth.” (Richard Gere). 2. “Intelligence, kindness, ability to sacrifice and the beauty – the man appreciate in women. That what women value in men. People are usually afraid of misunderstanding, coldness and callousness (черствость) of others, their own incompetence in some matters, death and poverty.” (Foreign psychologists). 3. “Truimph comes from two words - “Try” and “Umph”. If you treat an individual as he is, he will stay as he is; but if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be” (International truth). 4. Some rules for Family through building and maintaining its’ traditions and rules in order and calmness: “Our Life is always under construction. While building ourselves, we concern about Profession, Family, Duties, Mission, Motherland, Duties of the day, Qualification, Sense of Responsibility. Give happiness to people. Do something nice. Reach out. Give back. Remember to say “Please” and “Thank you”. Keep the spirit of the holiday season in your heart all your tong. Wish loved ones the warmth of good cheer, happiness, love and every joy of communication. Good Deeds go a long way. It is time to have a spirit of joining and giving. It’s time to hold the door open for a stranger, and its’ the perfect time to spread kindness and the best family values in your professional sphere of communication.” (Famous Russian psychologies) [2, p. 38]. All these advice are alive compound notions in a strong system of living process construction, oriented and directed to productive team work of teachers and students.

All these positions are responsible for guaranteed comfortable and calm atmosphere at working place and common desire of all those involved in the working process to share its results with approval and support each other. Such approach is effective enough to solve the tasks on preventing conflicts.

Let us repeat again and again the witty advice reliable absolutely in situation of communication teachers and students for the sake of “A Great personality open to win” ‘building up, constructing, designing, creating. Some of them are here:

1. There is great beauty in simplicity. That which is simple is close to Truth.
2. The less you speak, the more you are listened to.
3. The most important virtue needed for self- transformation – is patience.
4. Patience teaches us to pace ourselves.
5. You are what you think. When you are angry, a great deal of energy is used up and wasted. Use energy wisely.
6. When the mind is filled with virtues, they will be revealed in our actions.
7. There will always be the opportunity to learn for those who desire it.
8. If you realize that everyone is an individual with his own unique part to play, then the power of tolerance is easy to develop. Mistakes are caused by lack of attention, then there is tension.
9. If I allow myself to be puffed up by praise and fame, then insult and deformation and will destroy me.
10. Real power and authority is not power and authority over others, but over the self.
11. Make effort to uplift yourself, do not degrade yourself, for one’s own self is one’s friend and one’s own self is one’s enemy.
12. If you always do your best, you will be free from regrets [3, p. 183].

The quality of our life depends on the quality of our thoughts, determining our past, present and future from the position of our personal possibilities and opportunities, involved in mental and emotional sphere of our living on the base of open mind and heart, reliability in communication and responsibility in our profession. Always as vocation. Not less.